Friday, March 25, 2011

Saving a Relationship - Date With Your Ex Boyfriend

So you have been working really hard to save your relationship and finally got to the point where you are going on your first date after breaking up.  What should you do to make sure you win him back?  Here's something I saw on the news the other day that can give us some insights.

A beautiful day was ending and a young couple was enjoying a fantastic sunset at a scenic roadside vista.   Then out of nowhere, a man with a gun robbed them and drove off with their car.  The area had no cell reception, so the couple had to hike a mile down the road in the dark to get enough of a signal to call for help.  To top things off, the couple was on their first date.

Most of us would think that this must have been the worst date ever for both of them, but we would be wrong.  When they were asked if they would go on a second date together, both said they couldn't wait to go on their next date.  So why would this couple want to go out again after going through such a traumatic experience on their first date? 

Well, the simple answer is that the common bond that is formed by sharing an emotionally charged event is hard to break and brings people closer together.  It is the same reason that soldiers who serve together in a combat zone become so close after just a short period of time.  So how can we use this principle when planning the first few dates with your ex boyfriend?

Since emotionally charged experiences create strong bonds in a relationship, you should make sure that your first few dates are packed with shared excitement and adventure.  Spending a day at an amusement park would be an excellent choice for many couples.  Just imagine all the adrenaline packed roller coasters and other exhilarating rides you can use to bond with your boyfriend.

If both of you are die-hard thrill seekers, you can step it up a notch and go for things like skydiving or bungee jumping.  Extreme activities like these are sure to create memories that will last a lifetime.

If roller coasters and skydiving are too much for you or your boyfriend, that's ok.  Any activity that both of you will find exciting or adventurous will be perfect.  For some couples, an afternoon out learning to rollerblade or exploring a cave would be sufficient to do the trick.  If you can make the activity fun, exciting, and something both of you can share, the results will be spectacular.

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Friday, March 4, 2011

How To Stop Your Boyfriend From Breaking Up With You - 5 Proven Tips

Your boyfriend has just called off a relationship with you, but you're not ready to leave just yet. If this is the case, you are probably wondering how to stop your boyfriend from breaking up with you. Below are some highly effective tips that are proven to get your boyfriend back.

1. Give your boyfriend space and time to reflect. Resist the urge to contact him. If you've been together a while, he will miss you if you leave him alone. This is actually what you want since it is much easier to get him back if he actually misses you. But in order for this to work, you have to avoid contact with him for a while. There is no way he will miss you if you're calling him 10 times a day.

2. Build up your self image so that you are strong and confident when your ex sees you. These are qualities that guys find attractive. Go out and get a makeover. Get your hair done. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. This will show everyone that you are doing fine without your ex. You may even be surprised to find that other guys will begin to notice your unique qualities.

3. Spend time doing things that interest you. Hang out with your friends. Take up new hobbies. These things will help keep your mind off your boyfriend and hopefully be fulfilling to you at the same time.

4. If you boyfriend sees that you have gotten your life back together and are doing fine without him, he will likely be open to talking to you. This is especially true if you've left him alone to reflect a while because he will now miss you. You can take this opportunity to slowly reconnect with your ex. Start by reminiscing about the good times you've shared. This will stir up some feelings and cause him to have second thoughts about breaking up with you.

5. Take up an activity that puts you around a lot of guys. An activity like ballroom dancing would be great for this. If your boyfriend sees or hears about you dancing with a bunch of guys, it will get his immediate attention. The thought of his highly confident, ex girlfriend out dancing with other guys will cause him to seriously re-evaluate his decision to break up with you.

If you incorporate these highly effective tips in your plan on how to stop your boyfriend from breaking up with you, you will stand an excellent chance of getting him back. You might even end up with a much stronger relationship in the end. Click Here to learn more tips on keeping your boyfriend.